Hello, sweet peas!
I think I can say, that I’ve been part of the readersphere (which encompasses reading, reviewing, blogging and all kinds of social media obviously, I’m sure it will catch on) long enough and have watched people around me long enough to be able to say: “I still don’t understand people.”
Okay, maybe not everyone. Still, there are things, that I don’t quite get. Maybe one of you has the answers?
Reviewing/rating books that are not even out yet
Look, I obviously know what an arc is. But if you’ve ever looked at some not-yet-published books on Goodreads, you see star ratings for books that are absolutely impossible. Books that the author has not even finished yet – why would you rate them?
Nobody benefits from that kind of rating. Nobody CAN know if they would like that particular book or not.
And apparently it’s not only me, who doesn’t understand it. For example, Patrick Rothfuss wrote a review on his own book “The Doors of Stone” in 2012 commenting on people rating his book – the book is still not out yet, btw.
I kept thinking about this, ever since I read Sumedha @ The Wordy Habitat’s post about it.
While I’m sure we can all agree on the fact that our blogs live off engagement and interactions, there is a difference between a comment that really interacts with your post and something that just…doesn’t. Sure, everybody likes validation – we all need it. But how do you form a relationship or even just have a proper conversation if all a commenter tells you is “great post” and expects you to come to their blog? I mostly see this with Memes like WWW Wednesday or the TTT. While I have fun with the topics, I’ve also noticed that people would only post things like the aforementioned “great post” or some other one line comment and a link to their own blog? It’s kinda disappointing, isn’t it? Doesn’t it defeat the whole purpose of the meme?
We are all different people, reading at different speeds, different genres, have different incomes and different preferences. And we have different sizes when it comes to our tbrs. It’s literally that easy.
Still I regularly see people getting shamed or ridiculed for their big (or even small) tbrs that goes further than the stunned laughs at the sight of their numbers or the question of “How?”
The question is: Why wouldn’t you leave people and their tbrs alone? I’m sure they know exactly how it came to be or how they wanna tackle it. There is no reason to be mean about it.
I’m not sure if I haven’t really encountered Cancel Culture before because it’s a new(er) thing or because I’ve only just joined Twitter a little while ago. But I don’t understand the idea to literally tell somebody “Hey, if you don’t stop liking X then we cannot be friends”.
While there might be reasons somebody wants to warn or convince you that the certain X is bad, be it an author or a book, a publisher, a company or whatnot, I don’t see any reason why you would pressure somebody into giving something up in such a unhealthy manner. (I mean, every armchair psychologist could tell you that love deprivation (for the lack of a better word) is one of the worst things you could do to another person.)
I find this sort of Cancel Culture rather weird and childish. Everybody can make their own decisions without having to deal with threats and name calling. I mean, we are not in kindergarten anymore.
What do you think? Can you understand any of it? Anything you wanna add?